Hello everybody and welcome back to another episode of “I don’t bi it”! My name is Alayna Fender, and I’ll be your host. There are a lot of myths and misconceptions floating around about sexuality these days And I’m here to get to the bottom of them. Or the top. Or neither.
[TITLE CARD : #ASEXUALITY] Todays guest is Abbie. hello, how do you identify?
Panromantic and then I would say asexual Panromantic, that’s a new one. This is Abbie. She does not like sex. She doesn’t want anyone else to have sex either
[TITLE CARD : FINALLY NOT A LESBIAN] Actually-
It’s a religious thing. It’s not though if other people want to have sex. I’m totally cool with that I’m actually a very sex positive person. You’re like a walking paradox Asexuality is when you don’t experience sexual attraction to anyone I don’t go hey look at you. You’re hot. I’d like to have the sex with you.
Do you still have genitals?
Yes. I own them on my body.
Can you…? (whisper) orgasm?
Yes. I’m fully capable of having sex and I have all the things that sex requires And you’re celibate.
No. Would you consider yourself to be a part of the LGBTQ community?
So you’re gay Not exactly…
Gay as in homosexual, homosexual as in attracted to one group of people and that group people is just empty. That’s a really roundabout way of getting to the point
Or you could say you’re homosexual as in attracted to one group of people and that group of people is just yourself?
No. I’ve heard asexuals refer themselves as aces Yes.
Why is that?
It’s to say, you know : “hey I’m asexual” and I’m like “I’m ace”, sounds cooler
And people can be like “ace in the hole” Well that doesn’t work, does it.
No. I actually have a boyfriend and-
He also hates sex No, we have a very loving relationship. We’re a very attracted to each other. I love him romantically. He’s very sexually What if you were stuck on a desert island though?
That’s usually… I don’t know, that’s usually like gets people, breaks people.
Do most people get stuck on desert Island and just go “let’s have sex all the time!” Because my first thought would be let’s find food.
Maybe you just haven’t met the right person yet. Sorry John [Maybe next time…]
What if you were the last person on Earth?
Well, then I would be the only person and nothing would [come] of it anyway What have you and John were the last two people on Earth? Then maybe we would think about it because we can’t have sex as we want to that works But how will you ever get married?
You can get married and not have sex But I’ve-
Not in God’s eyes! If we’re talking about God… Yes.
Are asexuals not preferred in their purity? The asexuals are the chosen people! Maybe but I mean, I think god’s pretty open to everybody.
Unless you’re trying to get married and not consummating that sh** You say you’re part of the LGBTQ-Q-Q community.
Yes. Where’s the A at?
Actually if you go with like the longer string of letters there is an A.
It’s called the alphabet.
You know in the LGBTQ letters so LGBTQIA-
I A ?
IA, Intersex I’m asexual
Sure So we’re both asexual.
If it has to do with celibacy…
It doesn’t. Then no… If it’s a choice…
It’s not. (whispers) Then no Maybe it’s just you can’t find anyone to have sex with you I have found multiple people willing to have sex with me.
Then I’m definitely not asexual.
Oh Next question. Canadians are really the brilliant people here. You bring the A into everything!
Except asexuality because apparently people want to sleep with you. I’m interested to hear about what it’s like to be male and asexual
You have to ask somebody who is male and asexual. He’s sexual, A space sexual
Exactly I’m glad we understand each other Do we?
Who is he sexual with?
We can experience sexual intimacy together if we so choose to do that. Currently he isn’t Currently having sex with anybody.
So he’s celibate and you’re asexual Me and John do you experience sexual intimacy with each other because we like to compromise. It’s just not something I’m attracted to necessarily So it’s like doing the dishes Sometimes you do the dishes because your partner wants you to the dishes Yes…
I don’t want to get my hands all slimy. [yeah], I don’t want touch dirty dishes [exactly], but I love my partner so I’ll get those dishes nice and clean.
And that’s perfectly fine as long as both partners are absolutely, okay with it 100% on board.
I think now it’s time for the lightning round.
For your lightning round I’ve decided we’re going to play Smash or Pass Okay Smash or Pass ! Grace Helbig.
Pass. Correct. Michael Aranda!
Pass. Correct. Your boyfriend John.
Pass This is getting confusing now, Miss Fender?
Well… Pass […] answer Those are all the questions I have for you today.
Oh wow! Fast! Easy. Painless.
I don’t bi it: fast easy painless Thank you so much for being on the show.
You’re welcome For the opportunity. Thank you so much for watching and as always: Bye/Bi Unless you’re asexual
Exactly what I’d say nailed it