Hi there and welcome back to the Lisa
Nichols show where I work really hard to share with you the tools that you and
I both need to live the life that we deserve, the one that is our
birthright full of abundance and joy. You know that I love reading your
comments and seeing you engage. I love what Megan d says about the
episode called how to resolve toxic relationships.
One of my favorite episodes, because relationships literally can
consume all of our energy between the ones going great,
the ones we want, the ones that we need some work on
the and the ones that are in complete breakdown relationships are major part.
So here’s what she says. She says, this speaks to my family’s
situation right now. Now I know how I can respond now
to those toxic family members. Lisa, thank you. You’re welcome sis. And then my sister Terry Kelly says
this video was my scratch on the record moment.
I’m repeating this, repeating this a few times
just to make sure it sticks. It’s much needed.
Thank you Lisa. My virtual life coach for life. Yes, this, I am excited to be your virtual
life coach and I am here forever. I’m not going anywhere. Go
anywhere anytime soon at
least. So I got to tell you, when we talk about relationships,
relationships are so critical. And what I love about your both of your
comments in so many other comments is that you recognize that relationships are
just that they’re a relay relationship is a relay.
And so oftentimes we spend all, all of our energy wanting to change that
person over there. Change, change, change. If you would just get it right,
if you just do this, we’d be okay. And the reality is that it’s a relay
that the one person you can control, the one variable that you can
control is right here with you. And when you begin to shift your
behavior or shift your response, as a matter of fact, sometimes we’re
not responding, we’re reacting. Is there anybody in your
life that absolutely triggers
you, type that in common? If it is now, how can you don’t just don’t just hate
on them and start talking bad about them and tell me how they trigger,
you know, just tell me who triggers you and then I
want you to follow that up with how can you change the reaction you
have to them to a response. I am blown away at how many relationships
I changed without the other person ever changing.
When I learned the power of mindset, the power of intentionality
and the distinction between
reacting and responding and how I can influence the outcome. . Based on how I respond, man, I
felt like I had a super power, so I’m excited. I love that
episode. I cannot wait to do more [inaudible]. How do you maintain faith when
things seem to be falling apart? Oh Man.
Have I had to learn to live this lesson? You know,
faith, if to really look at what faith means
and whatever your religious or spiritual background and choices. I’m not here
to impose my belief system on you. We’re not talking about religion, we’re talking about belief
or talking about hope. We’re talking about being able to
see past your current circumstance. So oftentimes when you see a vision
and you have your eye on the vision, you know what that vision is.
You know what you want that vision to be. You know what that vision looks like,
feels like, and sometimes you even
know what it tastes like. And then that that gone now happens.
Now relationship now, money now. Lack of money now, health challenges now naysayers,
now, haters now challenges. And what happens is you’re looking up at
the vision and you got your eye on the vision and then now happens. Now stuff happens and you look down at
the now and you have to look down at the now you need to take energy
grows where energy goes. If if you don’t put energy on the things
that you want to transform, change, modify, manage, then they’re not going
to be transformed, changed, modified, to managed. So you got to put energy
on them. But here’s the thing. While you’re putting energy on it,
while you’re looking down at it, you cannot forget while you’re in
your now to keep pushing your chin up. And keep being reminded of your vision. So your vision is out there is
one year, three year, five years, 10 years out when I had Jelani on the
couch at eight months old and he was wrapped in a towel and I didn’t
have money to buy him pampers. And I’m sitting there broke and broken. I couldn’t stay focused on my
now my now put a towel on him, but my vision, my vision saw the young man that I just
watch get married on a beautiful yacht in
the San Diego Marina, long way from the eight month old. And there were times when I kept looking
at the vision and my head kept being slingshot to the now because the now was
screaming so loud for your attention. Hmm. I know. The question
is how do I have faith? Faith. Faith comes from the
ability to see the unseen. Faith is saying,
I’m going to stand on what I know, not what I see.
I’m going to stand on what I know, not what’s being presented to me.
I’m going to go, I’m going to stand on what I know
I’m going to stand on. What I know, not what I hear.
Hmm. Faith is saying, I can feel it so much in my soul and my
heart and my spirit in my being that I don’t need anything
physically to agree with me. I’m not asking for your agreement. I’m not asking for your permission.
I’m not asking the universe, the world society to tell me who I can be, what I could do, where I can go,
what I can say, how I can grow, who I could become,
where I can express myself. I’m not asking. I’m sorry.
You thought I was asking. Faith is saying, I know like I know like
I know that the universe, the God, whether you call,
whatever you call it, that I serve, that’s in me.
That’s for me cause I got a possibility,
a got a lot of insurmountable power, strength,
determination, perseverance. I never said I wouldn’t get knocked down.
See, faith is not avoiding the knockdown.
Ooh. Faith is never avoiding the knockdown.
You’re not planning for the knocked down, but you’re prepared to get up. Just in case faith is, I may not live a life
that’s void of falling. Faith says in my life I might fall, but it doesn’t mean I don’t
have the right to fly. See, faith is recognizing that the number
of times you fall or life falls apart. It doesn’t determine
your birthright to soar. So quit asking your circumstances. Can you be happy?
Quit asking the environment. You may not ask it like, hey, household,
hey car note. Hey mortgage. Hey, relationship gotta to be happy. But you actually are if you’re not
happy in spite of wherever they are. And I’m not saying a superficial,
fake happy. I mean an awareness that
says this is a comma, not a period.
There’s more to come. And I hold the pen to write
the story about my life. So chapter four might be salty.
Chapter four might be challenging. Chapter five might be difficult, but just keep reading all it gets good. It gets good.
Remember, this show is not a monologue. It’s not a performance
it’s not entertainment. Even though I can be quite entertaining.
This is not entertainment. This is about transformation.
This is about your breakthrough. This show is a dialogue,
not a monologue. I love hearing from you.
I love hearing your content. I love hearing your context. I love
hearing what’s going on in your life. I love hearing how you applied it. I love hearing the #BOL my God, I love hearing the #YANAs
Lisa, YANA, Y.A.N.A You are not alone. I had that happen
to me as well. I love hearing that. So what was one of the big lessons that
you got out of this particular episode? What did you need to hear?
Where maybe has your faith begin to wane? I where have you been strong in faith?
What was the reminder? That’s what I want to hear. I want to hear
from this show. What was the reminder? What did you already know? Get
this. What did you already know? But you began to live like you didn’t
know it and this was a oh yeah, I forgot.
I knew that already. Leave a comment below and be sure to
subscribe and look out for more delicious, dynamic, courageous conversations in the
future cause I’m numbering them to you. After all.
This is your home. We are your tribe, and I will always be your sister
in prosperity and in possibility. And each and every time I say that,
I believe in you and I love you. It is not because I’m short of words, as you already know is because I do.
I’ll see you soon. [inaudible].